Where Is My Soulmate?

by Daria Rowe February 10, 2024

Art by Christine's HeArt Art Studio (shared with permission).

Valentine's Day can be such an emotionally charged time of the year.

Yes, I remember it well. Going through a divorce, many years ago. At a metro station, looking at people hurrying along with roses and boxes of chocolates. The first, delicious blush of love on their faces.

The truth is, it can be lonely to be on your own. And it can be lonely in a marriage. And the opposite is true!

And while self-love can help heal many things, we are wired to yearn for that special connection with that special someone. Our soulmate. Our second half.

YES, Says Your Natal Chart: That Special Someone is Out There for You

Well, guess what? I have done over 5,000 professional readings (I lost count at 5,000 🙂). And I have NEVER seen a natal chart that would be doomed to a life with no partner.

There are several aspects in astrology called “soulmate aspects”: when a soulmate relationship is likely to come into your life.

Most of us will experience at least a couple in our lifetime. Venus and the Sun will align by progression before the age of approx. 63 - and that's for everyone. Depending on your natal chart, this might happen when you’re 15. Or 25. Or any time before your mid-60s.

And that's just one soulmate aspect! I still remember my 81-year-old client asking me if there was another relationship in store for her. And there was!

But, it doesn't stop there. There are many more opportunity windows for a strong relationship to come into our life. In fact, they come at least every 4 to 6 years, when transiting Jupiter goes through your 1^st, 5^th or 7^th House. And I mean AT LEAST. For most people, they happen more often than that. We all have multiple opportunities in our lifetime to meet that special someone.

So, why am I still single, you might be asking?

That Saturn

Your birth chart can feature a challenging Saturn aspect to your love planets (usually Venus and the ruler of your 7^th House of Committed Relationships). And that can bring delays and disappointments in the romantic department. Saturn is often about your karmic lessons. Your soul may have chosen to learn how to be emotionally, financially and otherwise independent this time around.

Embrace it – because eventually, the planets in the sky will align just right, supporting your love life (I usually look for a Grand Trine from the outer planets). And if you've mastered your soul's lesson by that time, he – or she – will come!

So that's if your birth chart indicates possible delays in the love department.

Transiting Saturn can also limit your love life for a period of time. There can be a dry spell that lasts for a year or longer. "Yes, there may be fewer romantic opportunities available to you at this time", I say to my clients. "But, pay attention to the ones that do come. They have an excellent chance of becoming a long-term relationship". Saturn is about delays, but it's also about stability and longevity.

We're talking about delays here. As far as challenges in relationships, there can be more at play. I'm working on another post on that...Stay tuned.

Astrology can tell us when the opportune periods for love will arrive. But, from there on, it’s up to us. Remember, we’re co-creating our future with the Universe.

My Aries Client

I literally danced a happy dance around my kitchen, my iPad resting on the kitchen island, still displaying my client’s natal chart. “Yes, yes, yes! She’s going to meet him soon!”, I said. And then I sent her a message.

If you’ve been my client for a while, be prepared for a random message to come out of the blue, saying, “pay attention to this…”.

She had been single for a while, and I could tell it was weighing her down. She was an amazingly accomplished, professional woman – but her luck in the love department wasn’t the best.

Jupiter was about to enter her 7^th House of Committed Relationships. And from what I’ve seen, 4 times out of 5, it brings someone into your life. He or she always enriches your life in some ways. They can make you feel like a million bucks. Or expand your horizons. Or be financially beneficial for you. They are bringing a “gift” of some sort into your life.

Yes, she met a guy that year. And he was everything she requested from the Universe. He was hugely successful professionally. Handsome. Single. No children (which is what she wanted).

They started dating. He whisked her away on a fabulous weekend retreat by the ocean.

I couldn’t wait to hear how it went. “Well,” she said, “I told him he was firmly in a friend territory”.

“Why or why?”, I cried. “I know you’re romantically interested in him!” (she was). “Get your Aries planets to back off! YES you love your independence. But you ALSO want to be in a relationship. You're used to being in control, and falling in love can be scary, like falling off a cliff. You’re scared of what it would mean if this relationship took off. Let’s talk about that”.

(She had a stellium – several planets – in her 1^st House in Aries. Her Aries planets gave her a larger-than-life personality and fierce independence. To add to this powerhouse, her Sun was square Pluto. She was used to being in charge, and was afraid to lose control. And relationships ask us to surrender control and go on faith and trust. Which can be a scary proposition…)

Long story short, her self-limiting beliefs got in the way. The relationship gradually died on the vine. For years after, she was wondering if he was the one.

All of this is to say – pay attention to the opportune periods that astrology forecasts for you, and work on your self-limiting beliefs so they don’t get in the way of your own happiness!

And I repeat – we ALL have multiple opportunities in our lifetime for a relationship to come into our life.

Now for Some Technical Details

You might be wondering, what planetary aspects forecast a relationship? Here are my cheat sheet notes (technical, mind you):

Progressed Sun conjunct natal Venus, or progressed Venus conjunct natal Sun – a classic soulmate aspect. The Sun will conjoin Venus by progression before the age of 48, but if you were born with Venus as the Morning Star, it can take her a bit longer to catch up with the Sun if she goes retrograde. (Sometimes though, a soulmate comes in a guise – such as a long-awaited and beloved child).
Progressed Venus conjunct natal Jupiter – this often brings a marriage.
Venus or Mars making an aspect to each other by progression – this will often bring out quintessential yin-yang dynamics. Traditional astrology says, “you will meet a person you’re going to have children with” – and I’ve often found this to be true! There can be amazing chemistry. But, this is not a soulmate aspect.
Transiting Jupiter moving through the 5^th House of Romance.
Transiting Jupiter moving through the 7^th House of Committed Relationships. This can bring an upswing in your current relationship, but also a brand-new relationship that can progress fast.
Transiting Jupiter moving through the 1^st House of Self: opportunities abound in many areas of our life, including love.
Transiting Pluto or Uranus connecting with your natal Venus or the ruler of your House of Committed Relationships. Pluto will bring a deeply intense and sexual relationship, and it can border on an obsession. Uranus will bring a magnetic relationship, but it might not last.
And – surprisingly – Saturn moving through your 5^th or 7^th While it can bring romantic delays, if a relationship comes into your life under this aspect, it will have an excellent potential to become long-term.

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